A positive self-esteem is one of the greatest gifts that you can give your child.
Did you know that kids with a healthy self-esteem…
feel liked and accepted
feel proud of what they can do
think good things about themselves
believe in themselves
But how do you go about building a good self-esteem for your kids? Here are a few ideas to implement at home to make sure you’re on the right track.
Do give children choices. Giving children choices — within a reasonable set of options
preselected by you — makes them feel empowered. For example, at breakfast you might
offer your child the option of eggs or pancakes. Learning to make simple choices while
they’re young will help prepare your child for the more difficult choices he’ll face as he
Don’t do everything for her. Be patient and let her work things out for herself. For example, it may be faster and easier to dress your preschooler, but letting her do it herself helps her learn new skills. The more she meets new challenges, the more competent and confident she’ll feel.
Do let him know no one is perfect. And explain that no one expects him to be. The way you react to your child’s mistakes and disappointments colors the way he will react.
Don’t gush or offer insincere praise. Kids are masters at detecting insincere praise or
baseless compliments. Praise your child often, but be specific in your compliments. For
instance, instead of reacting to your child’s latest drawing with, “Wow, that’s great. You’re
the best artist in the world,” try something like, “I really like how you drew the whole family. You even included details like Daddy’s beard.”
Do assign age-appropriate household chores. Give children responsibility for tasks such as setting the table, walking the dog, and folding laundry. They’ll increase their feelings of
competency and bolster their problem-solving skills.
Don’t draw comparisons between your children. Instead, appreciate each one’s
individuality and special gifts.
Don’t call children names or use sarcasm to make a point. Never belittle your child’s
feelings. When you get angry take a short break so you don’t say anything you’ll regret. And keep in mind, you can dislike a child’s actions without disliking the child. Be sure to illustrate the difference to your child.
Do spend one-on-one time with your child. Whether it’s grabbing a bite to eat or taking a
bike ride, try to schedule some alone time with your child at least once a week. This is a great opportunity to talk about what’s on her mind and to cement the bond the two of you share.
Those are our top tips, do you have any to share? We look forward to hearing from you.